It is not length of life, but depth of life. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
We are all terminal.
With each passing day, every one of us is one day closer to death than we were yesterday. Our time on this earth is limited. Shouldn’t you make the most of it?
Morbid thoughts? Maybe it makes you uncomfortable to discuss but it’s a fact. Our days are numbered and yesterday is gone forever.
If you knew you had 90-days to live, would you live differently?
Would you be more deliberate in how you spent each day? Would your priorities change?
Changes your perspective doesn’t it?
Many of the things you do now that seem so important would immediately become meaningless. You would have total clarity about what matters most.
You wouldn’t hesitate to be spontaneous. You wouldn’t procrastinate any longer. Your life would be radically transformed!
This leads to the hard question, “Why don’t you do those things now?”
Why do we wait until we are diagnosed with cancer or we experience the loss of someone close to get this “wake-up call”?
Priorities are clear
Many make radical changes when faced with death in order to die well:
- Put financial affairs in order
- Reconcile relationships
- Speak freely from the heart
- Gain boldness
- Less fearful
- Attitude of gratitude
- Less worry (outside of health)
Live like you were dying
Like the song says, why can’t we live more intentionally everyday like we really were dying? As I said above, we’re all terminal! We just hope it’s not in the next 90-days.
I asked several popular self-development bloggers, writers, and counselors this question:
IF YOU HAD 90-DAYS TO LIVE, WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN ORDER TO HAVE “NO REGRETS”?
These were all people who are ALREADY living with intention and helping others to do so. Nevertheless, the results were both surprising and predictable.
All came back with clarity of purpose and a renewed sense of passion for what really matters. But most of these folks are living so deliberately and with intention that news of a terminal diagnosis wouldn’t require dramatic refocusing on priorities.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be living so focused on what matters that you wouldn’t need to change anything?
What’s stopping you? What’s holding you back?
I’m convinced we all would live life differently if we only had 90-days to live. Not all of us would prioritize the same things, but we would all live a more fulfilling life story and leave a legacy that would impact multiple generations.
What would you do if you only had 90-days to live?
Katie Tallo – Momentum Gathering
Katie is a mother, wife, writer, director, artist, fitness lover, vegetarian, motivator and momentum gatherer. Her mission is to seek out simple, soulful ways to live, eat, move, create and flow with life.
“I would totally let go accomplishing anything big and simply be right where I am with those I love. I’d laugh, write, dance, walk, likely cry and hug a lot. I’d buy really good red wine and I’d definitely stop worrying about my weight or the books I haven’t yet read or the places I’ll never see. Instead, I’d pack my final days with love, love, love.”
Vic Magary – VicMagary.com
Vic is a personal trainer, blogger, and dog lover. He helps people lose fat and get into great shape at his website.
“I can think of plenty of things I’d want to do if I only had 90 days to live and that leads to me asking the hard question of how come I don’t just do them now.”
Sean Ogle – SeanOgle.com
In 2009, Sean I quit his job, moved to Thailand, built a business, and started living life the way he’d always wanted. His website, Location 180 documents the journey and teaches you how to do the same thing and live a life worth writing about.
“If I knew I only had 90 days to live the most important thing for me to do would be to tell everyone I know how I really feel. I don’t want to die knowing that I held anything back or left anything unsaid. I’d make sure that everything I owned and any money in my accounts had a place to go, and would be helping someone further their own goals once I was gone.Once those were done, I’d set off around the world to finish the stuff on my bucket list, and bring as many friends and family members with me in the process.”
Justin Lukasviage – CoachRadio.tv
Justin is a storywriter. He helps individuals and businesses tell better stories that attract customers and change the world.
“Honestly, I’m living the life I want right now. If I was diagnosed with a terminal disease, I’m not sure I’d change anything. That may sound cheesy, but I’ve been very intentional with how I live my life. I’m already doing what I believe will have lasting impact on society and even more importantly, my family.”
Barrie Davenport – LiveBoldandBloom.com
Barrie wants to inspire you to live boldly and bloom to your fullest potential! Her readers have climbed summits, created vibrant businesses, written books, and dared to dream big dreams. Join them on this adventure and begin living boldly today.
“The first thing that comes to mind when you think about dying are the people you love. I would want to create videos and write letters to my children to let them know how much I love them and to offer some last minute parenting advice that they can keep after I’m gone. Of course, I’d want to spend as much time as possible with them and other loved ones during those 90 days and communicate my love to all of my friends and family. I would do some traveling to places I’ve always wanted to go – beautiful, natural places that would leave me with an impression of the wonders of this amazing planet. And I’d probably continue writing on my blog so that I leave some kind of legacy that might help others. If I can leave this world having raised decent children and served others in some way, I will have no regrets.”
Courtney Carver – BeMoreWithLess.com
Be More With Less is a blog about simplifying your life and really living. Here, you can learn how to create a life with more savings and less no debt, more health and less stress, more time and less stuff, and more joy with less obligation.
“While I haven’t been diagnosed with a terminal disease, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, a progressively debilitating disease. It was because of that diagnosis that I completely changed my life. With all of the changes I made over the past 6 years, the most important things rose to the surface. Love & Health are the 2 most important things to me and define every decision I make. I’m not sure if a terminal diagnosis would change that.
I’ve never been perfect or even close. I’ve made bad decisions. I’ve worked to hard, spent too much, ate when I was full, slept too little and overextended myself in every possible way. Even still, if I died tomorrow, it would be with no regret because I made (and continue to make) the changes necessary to feel better, be better and love more deeply.”
Joel Runyon – Blog of Impossible Things
Joel Runyon writes about pushing your limits and telling a great story by doing impossible things. He runs triathlons, travels the world, adventure, and throws spears on occasion.
“I want to be courageous. I’m not quite sure what specific things I’d say I want to do (if I did, I’d go ahead and do it right now), but I’m sure if I only had 90 days left, I’d forget schedules and live even more spontaneously than I currently do, but the ultimate goal is to be courageous I never want to not do something because I was too scared.”
Jacob Sokol – Sensophy.com
Jacob created Sensophy as a way to help you live an extraordinary life. A life that when you wake up in the morning, you’re like, helllll yeeeeeeah! It’s all about living a life of passion, purpose, progress and playfulness.
“Family. That’s what comes to mind. I’d go kick-it with my 3 year old niece and play with her till laughing boogers shot straight from her nostrils.
Intimacy. I’d cut the superfluous formality conversation and consciously communicate from my core. I wanna know about you, not what you think I wanna know about you.”
Sam Davidson – SamDavidson.net
Sam is a speaker, writer, and dreamer who tells stories that need telling in order to motivate others to change the things that need changing.
“As much as I’d like to say I wouldn’t do anything differently if I knew I had just 90 days left to live, there are several things I’d make sure to do.
I’d stop my long term projects – those that I know won’t/wouldn’t pay off for 5-10 years. There are several things I do for the long haul right now. While they may provide moderate short-term income, some of my interest in them lies in the fact that they can scale over time. But, because they are “work”, I spend time on them each week. I’d drop those if I didn’t have much time left on earth.
I’d also stop from buying anything new. What could will it be? Remember: hearses don’t pull UHaul trailers.
And lastly, I’d stop watching TV. It doesn’t matter what is happening on Modern Family when I could better spend that time with my own “modern family.”
Arvind Devalia – ArvindDevalia.com
Arvind lives a life of contribution by making a positive and powerful impact on the world. He is committed to opening you to the possibility of discovering your deepest purpose, living a fully expressed life filled with peace, love, well-being, courage and integrity.
“I would spend the first week having a massive party with my friends and families. I would use that time to let them know how much they all mean to me.
Second thing I would do is de-clutter my life completely and get rid of all my assets and get my finances and everything else in order.
That would then leave me with about 60 days to focus on creating a lasting legacy for the world. I would travel to India and Africa for a couple of weeks each, meet lots of people and share my message with them. I would give lots of public talks and also write 3 hours a day or more.
Of course I would refuse all medical treatment and take the best possible care in these 90 days so I am full of vibrant energy and be fully present to those I meet.
In my last week, I would have another wild party. And my final message would be – Thanks for the ride, see you on the other side!”
Jeff Nickles – MySuperChargedLife.com
Jeff Nickles is a regular guy on a quest to live life to its fullest. He began MySuperChargedLife.com in December of 2007 as a way to share his experiences and to learn more about life. He believes that good habits are the pathway to a great life. You can learn more about Jeff on his blog.
1. I would want to document several things I’ve learned (mostly the hard way) to pass on to my daughters in hopes that it would enrich their lives.
2. I would take an epic trip overseas with my wife and girls to cherish sweet time with them and create a vivid memory they would always have.
3. I would make sure all my affairs were in order so my family was well cared for once I was gone.
Mars Dorian – MarsDorian.com
Mars is a visual storyteller & creative marketer with a moon-melting passion for human potential and technology. He helps people stand out online and draw cartoons for individuals and brands that want to get talked about. His goal is to create (art)work that inspires people like to live and work on their own terms.
“I would inspire every creative soul on this planet to create epic work and put a damn dent into this 90% mediocre world. I’d work my soul off for this, and when the grim reaper comes knocking on my door, I’d proudly say: “My work’s done. Let’s go.” “
Corey Allan, Ph.D – SimpleMarriage.net
Corey is a husband, father, author, speaker, as well as a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy.
1. Spend time with my wife and kids outdoors (hiking, throwing rocks in rivers, camping). No phones, email, texts, totally unplugged and together.
2. A weekend away with just my wife. Again, no phones, email, computers – totally unplugged.
Benny Hsu – GetBusyLivingBlog.com
Benny is an iPhone app developer, entrepreneur and a blogger. Get Busy Living is all about taking control of our lives, instead of waiting for something to happen.
“I would go skydiving. I would love the feeling of falling through sky, but always afraid something bad would happen. I would also take a month to go around the world and visits countries and cities I’ve wanted to see. I’d make sure my closets family went along. I’d continue to find ways to feel alive. I’d perform random acts of kindness. I’d try and brighter someone’s day every single day. I’d focus on the good in the world.”
Now it’s your turn…will anything change? Or will you wait for a crisis?