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Why Your Story Sucks : 11 Life Lessons to Edit Your Boring Story (from #Storyline)

 

Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them  — Henry David Thoreau

Storyline is not a conference…it’s an experience.

It’s very difficult to explain when you get home.  You just know that going forward things can never be the same.  Whether or not your story ever changes, you WILL remember Storyline.

Storyline is about learning what it takes to live a better story.

Here some are nuggets of wisdom from my notes and workbook material:

STORY:  A character that wants something and is willing to overcome conflict to get it.

1.  WHAT MAKES A GREAT STORY MAKES A GREAT LIFE.

A good story is about a character that’s a “good guy” who wants something incredibly difficult to achieve and he has to overcome all types of conflict to get it.  But he does.  Now ask yourself, “What do you really want?” [Tweet this now]

2.  WHAT YOU REALLY BELIEVE IS DEMONSTRATED IN THE STORY YOU LIVE.

Face it, interesting people tell interesting stories with their lives.  Why don’t we all live more interesting lives?  FEAR.  We are afraid to make mistakes.  We don’t make the hard choices because we are afraid to be wrong.  [Tweet this now]

3.  FIND SOMETHING YOU CARE ABOUT MORE THAN YOURSELF.

You find yourself when you stop thinking of yourself.  When find something (or someone) that you care about more than yourself, everything changes.  The decision process becomes easy.  You’re not afraid.  The risk is worth any conflict you may face.  Now you’re in a good story.  [Tweet this now]

4.  YOU CAN’T MAKE DECISIONS IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE YOU’RE GOING.

Great stories are planned.  They don’t happen by accident.  Think through what you want and the anticipated conflicts.  How much time have you spent planning your life versus a summer vacation?  [Tweet this now]

5.  FORGIVENESS IS ACCEPTING THE BURDEN SOMEONE HAS GIVEN YOU WHILE NO LONGER HOLDING ANYTHING AGAINST THEM.

Many of our stories include heartache and hardship.  While painful and must be appropriately grieved, consider the redemptive value in your suffering. Not easy to do but necessary.  [Tweet this now]

6.  FOR A STORY TO WORK, WHAT WE WANT MUST BE GOOD.

The best stories are Good vs. Evil and Good always wins.  Right?  You will never engage others in the pursuit of something unworthy or selfish.  [Tweet this now]

7.  YOUR AMBITION IS WHAT YOUR STORY IS ABOUT. 

Do you know what you want in life?  Meaningless ambitions equal meaningless stories.  If what you want has meaning and can change lives, you’ll be part of a great story.  [Tweet this now]

8.  RISK MORE & FAIL MORE.

In stories, characters don’t take action unless they have to.  People don’t like change.  We prefer comfort, stability and security.  Get off the couch and take a risk for a cause greater than yourself.  You’ll be a hero.  Failure is not a judgment, it’s an education.  [Tweet this now]

9.  ASK, “WHAT IF?” A LOT MORE

If you need something to force you to get off the couch to take action, ask “What if…?”  Generate ideas for BIG action by playing “What if….?” and then go do that.  What’s the worst that could happen?  #EpicFail?  [Tweet this now]

10.  ALL STORIES ARE ULTIMATELY ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.

To love is to risk.  You allow them to have power over you to break your heart, disappoint you or leave again.  But still, invite others into your story.  Stories are more meaningful when shared.  [Tweet this now]

11.  STORIES ARE ABOUT PEOPLE OVERCOMING CONFLICT.

So is life.  Conflict transforms and builds character.  Conflict gives meaning to what we want.  When it’s hard to attain something, we value it more.  Conflict is our friend.  [Tweet this now]

If you have attended a Storyline in the past, I’d love to hear your thoughts and connect with you.  It’s a meaningful weekend and I’d be interested in hearing how your story is changing.  In fact, tweet this blog post to other #Storyline attendees HERE.

If you would like more information about Storyline, email me at:  david [at] davidamoore [dot] comfor details about conference dates and details.

Comments

  1. Ryan says:

    “It’s very difficult to explain when you get home.” SO true! Thanks for the great highlight summary!

    • David Moore says:

      Thanks Ryan. It truly was awesome. Sorry we didn’t meet while there. Pass this along to others you met at Storyline. Love to round all of us up as a communtiy. Take care – David.

  2. David,

    Great recap here!

    #2 and #8 can be big ones for me. I was just talking with my wife about these issues the other day. We just made a big decision, one that will help us living a better story! However, it’s scary and I don’t know how it’s all going to work out.

    That can be the thing that’s so scary for me; I don’t know how it’s going to all work out. But hey, I’m going to be OK with that. I know it’s not possible if you’re doing interesting and exciting things.

    Thanks for the post!

    • David Moore says:

      Thanks Mike. Sometimes we feel the most alive when we are scared to death. But sounds like you may have the key ingredient right beside you…a supportive wife. If she has got your back, you can’t fail.

  3. David nice list.

    #1 really resonates with me. i want to make sure if my life were in fact a movie that i would actually go and watch it.

    #4 is partly true. In order to do anything BIG, i’ve always had to plan. But.. some of my best more memorable times are about getting lost and not having a plan. i.e. i find the coolest places to visit while travelling by just walking and taking the train then getting lost and discovering a new area. Not sure how it fits in here but it works..

    • David Moore says:

      Hey Annie. Thanks for commenting. Keep a look out for another special post coming soon. An interview with a TV star!

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